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I had feelings for a guy. Grew close to him in an effort to be closer to him. I kept falling more and more in love with him. Melvin was everything I wanted in a man, said Dorian, and we shared everything, went on tours together, and he taught me a lot about life. As we grew older and more aware of who we were, we decided to take things to the next level by getting married.

Wow, that's great news, said Dad, grinning widely. I'd love to meet your fiancée, my future son-in-law.
Dad asked my mum, "What do you have to say about this that your daughter just brought up?"

Mum replied, "I've got nothing to say now until I've met and verified his background and personality, till then I sensed there might be a problem," adding, nonetheless, "Congratulations my daughter, this is what we've been praying for you to bring home a man you will call your husband my son-in-law."

Do you mind telling us if your fiancée is a Christian?
What is his tribe and profession?

He is a Christian, indeed She immediately changed her expression when I replied, "He works as a consultant in a hospital and is a native of the Eki community in Rivers State, Nigeria." She said, "No, never, it can't work, you better count me out. I'm not ready to lose my daughter to the hands of any useless man who has no respect for women."

I was overcome with rage and so overcome with emotion that I was unable to speak but instead chose to leave.

Why? I kept wondering!

I was only thinking seriously my mother's reaction and didn't have any desire for food or anything else.

I was unaware that husband to be was dealing with the same issue with his family.

We were unable to understand what was happening because it felt as though our entire world had been torn apart, shattering our three years of shared dreams.

Why can't I wed Melvin, Mom?

Just explain to me why, please.

I demand to know, seriously, I was yelling at her, and if things weren't made clear to me, I could have left the house.

My mother told me to calm down and that all she wanted for me was for the best

You see, the men from that tribe are renowned for their violence, and it is forbidden for a woman from your tribe to marry a woman from his tribe. Oh no, my daughter, because it is illegal, any woman who tries it is either expelled from the marriage or passes away at a very young age. You will never be accepted by his family as their daughter-in-law because it is certain that he has already been engaged to someone else.

Since I was so terrified at the time, I had to call Melvin and explain to him why my mother doesn't want us to be a couple.

I can't lose you for any cultural justifications, he told me, "That's outrageous nonsense. What kind of a stupid culture is that."

Let's just leave the house.

To a place where people know little to nothing about us, let's work together to create our world because I promise you, they will search for us. Melvin told me.

But I refused, telling him that since our parents don't approve of the marriage, let's just remain close friends and put off getting married because we'll undoubtedly find another partner.

The thought of the good times we shared and everything we went through together, and how they are now gone, is just heartbreaking. Not because I didn't feel like I could survive, but just because it would be worse if I died because of him or became the object of marital resentment.

Even though I miss Melvin as my first love, I am happy to hear that he is now married and has children. I am also doing well overall.

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